My experience of relations

The relationships in this world can broadly be categorized into two. One is the the relationship with only LOVE involved in it and which need not be disclosed. The other is the LOVE which is to be shown always. They day you stop showing it, there would be some kind of problems in that relation.
For the second type of relation, we do expect LOVE and affection from others. There might be a scenario where we could not display our love and that resulting in the obstacles in the relation, but in such situations, the affection we have towards the other being has to overcome the ego in us, that is the real LOVE and which adds to the relation. The day ego overcomes the affection, problems start and that lead to a very bad experience.
We come across the first type of relations very rarely, most of the relations are parents-children etc., which cannot be described, they are meant to be there.
The second type of relations are to satisfy our ego, and the same ego interrupts the relation when it could not accept it, there comes the fight between the ego and love towards the person, if ego wins, the relation ends and if the love wins over ego, the relation perishes.

The three forces

In every man there are three forces. Sometimes Tamas prevails. We become lazy, we cannot move, we are inactive, bound down by certain ideas or by mere dullness. At other times activity prevails, and at still other times that calm balancing of both. Again, in different men, one of these forces is generally predominant. The characteristic of one man is inactivity, dullness and laziness; that of another, activity, power, manifestation of energy; and still in another we find the sweetness, calmness, and gentleness, which are due to the balancing of both action and inaction. So in all the creation - in animals, plants, and humans - we find the more or less typical manifestation of all these different forces.
--Ideas of Swami Vivekananda
(Part of Karma-yoga)

How you look at it

When you look at the world, what is the first thing that comes to your attention? Do you zero in on the problems, the heartaches, the fears and the disappointments, or do you first take note of the beauty, the joys and the positive possibilities?

If you look at life through a lens of negativity, life will dutifully arrange itself to meet your expectations. When you approach life from a more positive perspective, your expectations will just as surely be met.

Is it unrealistic to look at the bright side, to remain generally positive, and to expect the best in life? No, because reality itself is neutral, and what you get from it depends upon how you view it and what you make of it.

The raw forces, circumstances and events are, for the most part, out of your control. Yet you can completely control the way you perceive, respond, adapt and yes, even prosper under their influence.

The control you exercise over your own perceptions, thoughts and actions will make all the difference in your life. Reality is what it is, and your own relationship to that reality is precisely whatever you choose for it to be.

There is goodness, there is beauty, there is love and joy and boundless opportunity when you choose to see it. Look realistically at the world, see the very best, and bring it joyfully to life in each moment.

Have a great day,

Regards,

L Ram Kumar

"Building the Values of Humanity"

20 points to keep RELATIONS

1.Relationships do not last long without genuineness, sincerity and openness.
2.A smile gives others happiness and costs nothing.
3.Exchange of pleasantries will pave the way for depth in existing relationships.
4.Can I do anything for you is a magical expression and will give you a winning edge over others.
5.Words of anger no only hurt a person but you can even lose a friend.
6.Laugh with others and not over others.
7.Forgiveness is one of the finest quality a person can inculcate.
8.Peace is the foundation for happiness.
9.Fruits of success cannot be enjoyed in isolation. One needs friends near and dear ones to share the success.
10.Take care not to lose the love of family, friends and colleagues; respect from juniors and appreciation from superiors.
11.A happy family life can provide the necessary spring board for enhancing a person's self confidence.
12.An understanding & supportive spouse can be a pillar of great strength.
13.Adopt a sensible and calm attitude in interpersonal conflicts.
14.Courtesies do not cost anything. Thank people for even little things they do for you.
15.Exchange of pleasantries will pave the way for depth in existing relationships.
16.Sincere appreciation, encouragement & recognition of good qualities and services rendered, pays rich dividends.
17.To make things easier, understand other person's interest or needs.
18.Seeking some one's opinion creates a feeling of elation and importance in that person and can be the foundation for lasting relationship.
19.Words of anger not only hurt a person but one can lose a friend.
20.Love is the purest feeling one can experience for another person.
We make our living by what we get, but we make our life by what we give.

Laugh A While

Seriousness is a disease. Somehow men have conditioned themselves to be unhappy. Most men carry a long serious face and a mask. They cannot smile; they cannot enjoy the small things of life; they keep aloof – their ego won't allow it.

"Life is not a serious thing. It is fun, it is laughter and it is joy”.

Take hold of your own life. See, how the whole existence is celebrating. Nature is enjoying. Trees are swinging; birds are flying in the air and singing. Rivers are flowing freely and oceans are wild. Everywhere out, there is fun; everywhere there is joy and delight. Laugh a while and enjoy the fun of life.

Have a look at this
Salary & Govt. Concessions for a Member of Parliament (MP)
Monthly Salary : 12,000

Expense for Constitution per month : 10,000

Office expenditure per month : 14,000

Traveling concession (Rs. 8 per km) : 48,000 ( eg.For a visit from kerala to Delhi & return: 6000 km)

Daily DA TA during parliament meets : 500/day

Charge for 1 class (A/C) in train: Free (For any number of times) (All over India )

Charge for Business Class in flights : Free for 40 trips / year (With wife or P.A.)

Rent for MP hostel at Delhi : Free

Electricity costs at home : Free up to 50,000 units

Local phone call charge : Free up to 1 ,70,000 calls.

TOTAL expense for a MP [having no qualification] per year : 32,00,000 [i.e. 2.66 lakh/month]

TOTAL expense for 5 years : 1,60,00,000

For 534 MPs, the expense for 5 years :
8,54,40,00,000 (nearly 855 crores)

AND THE PRIME MINISTER IS ASKING THE HIGHLY QUALIFIED, OUT PERFORMING CEOs TO CUT DOWN THEIR SALARIES…..

This is how all our tax money is been swallowed and price hike on our regular commodities.......
And this is the present condition of ourcountry:

855 crores could make their life livable !!

Think of the great democracy we have.............

... but,
STILL BE Proud to be INDIAN…

Ramakrishan Paramahamsa

says...
"Knowledge leads to unity. Ignorance, to disunity."
"As a man thinks, so he becomes."

"As the snake is seperate from its slough, even so is the Spirit seperate from the body."

"Men are like pillow-cases. The colour of one may be red, that of another blue, and that of the third black; but all contain the same cotton within. So it is with man; one is beautiful, another is ugly, a third holy , and a fourth wicked; but the Divine Being dwells in them all."

"That knowledge which purifies the mind and heart alone is true knowledge, all else is only a negation of knowledge."