My experience of relations

The relationships in this world can broadly be categorized into two. One is the the relationship with only LOVE involved in it and which need not be disclosed. The other is the LOVE which is to be shown always. They day you stop showing it, there would be some kind of problems in that relation.
For the second type of relation, we do expect LOVE and affection from others. There might be a scenario where we could not display our love and that resulting in the obstacles in the relation, but in such situations, the affection we have towards the other being has to overcome the ego in us, that is the real LOVE and which adds to the relation. The day ego overcomes the affection, problems start and that lead to a very bad experience.
We come across the first type of relations very rarely, most of the relations are parents-children etc., which cannot be described, they are meant to be there.
The second type of relations are to satisfy our ego, and the same ego interrupts the relation when it could not accept it, there comes the fight between the ego and love towards the person, if ego wins, the relation ends and if the love wins over ego, the relation perishes.

The three forces

In every man there are three forces. Sometimes Tamas prevails. We become lazy, we cannot move, we are inactive, bound down by certain ideas or by mere dullness. At other times activity prevails, and at still other times that calm balancing of both. Again, in different men, one of these forces is generally predominant. The characteristic of one man is inactivity, dullness and laziness; that of another, activity, power, manifestation of energy; and still in another we find the sweetness, calmness, and gentleness, which are due to the balancing of both action and inaction. So in all the creation - in animals, plants, and humans - we find the more or less typical manifestation of all these different forces.
--Ideas of Swami Vivekananda
(Part of Karma-yoga)